Thank you all for your kind replies.
It's funny, in a way, to think that when this terrible thing happens to your loved ones you think that it has only happened to you! Which of course it hasn't as so many of you have been through the same thing and i know parents have to die sometime. You just imagine they will always be there.
Had another blow today, my husband has lost his job. He is a contractor and finishes next week. They are cutting costs. He has known for sometime but didn't tell me as he thought i had enough to worry about. Bless him, i said i'm here to worry with him. Good news is that he has some work sorted for a few weeks but that's all at the moment.
I hope you all have a good and pain free weekend.
Thank you so much for supporting me.
Love Shirley x